When you judge others, you are judging yourself.
~ Zodie Klemp
Are You Missing Your Routine?
By Zodie Klempp
Are you missing your routine and sense of calm and peace? I had a wonderful holiday but it threw my meditation practice out the window. Life happens and this is a great reminder why you do the things you love doing in your life. There is no judgment in a “practice” – or no room for it if you are true and understanding. The Universe wants you living and experiencing life. No guilt, no shame – that is the human condition putting those emotions on the practice. When we find ourselves thinking of guilt/shame we miss the point. It is only freedom of the mind that we can transverse through and that will make us feel alive. Shame/guilt is enclosing, freedom is openness. Shame/guilt is contracting, freedom is expanding. When we have our awareness around us we can see how that negative charge can be limiting. We tend to gravitate to the ones in our life that hold this freedom door open for us. This energy is simply alive and we feel good.
When we fall prey to negative energies that close us off, we find alternate routes to flow around that rock in the stream that blocks us. We keep going, we keep growing and flowing. Take this into account when you see your resistance show up or in a family member blocking your flow. They cannot stop you from spilling out the sides and making a new rivulet – your own spillway out into the environment. You are mighty, you have a current behind you that will make sure your way is found with ease, courage, and curiosity. You have become the person you have always meant to become. Your practice, whether it be spiritual or your daily ‘life’ routine, is for your purpose in life not anyone else’s.
About the Author:
Zodie Klempp is an Energy Practitioner that works with her husband, Edwin Hogendoorn at Promoveo Energy and Wellness. They can help you with physical, emotional and mental issues you are experiencing from your past. By setting chakras, clearing chakras and aura, removing blocks and Thought Field Therapy (TFT) Tapping, they help and teach you to be the healer in your own life. This will help Evolve, Embody and Empower you. There is simple educational element to their energy work so clients are left with tools for their own healing. Book your Free Consultation to see where they may assist you on your healing journey.
Shifting Your Behaviors in Relationships
By Jill Leigh
Your Most Loving Relationships
Take a breath, take a moment.
Contemplate your most joyous, loving relationships, the people who form your inner circle. Rather than reflecting on these people, consider yourself.
What qualities and behaviors do you bring to these loving relationships?
You might come up with qualities like: grace, joy, open-heartedness, trust, integrity, honesty, humor
In loving relationships, we bring our best self to the fore, and meet and match the other person’s best self. These relationships are gorgeous, glorious, affirming and validating. Even when there are challenges, or moments of disagreement and discord, we can approach these relationships knowing that the air will clear, and we’ll be back in harmonious flow. Our behaviors mirror our awareness that our investment in and the value of the relationship is very high.
Your Most Difficult Relationships
Now, consider one or two challenging relationships. Perhaps a family member or a colleague, a neighbor or a former friend. Again, instead of thinking about the other person or people, reflect on yourself.
What qualities and behaviors do you bring to these relationships?
You might come up with behaviors like: distrust, anger, anxiety, aggression, wariness, hostility
In difficult relationships, we may be unable to locate our best self, or even our most current self. Often our difficult relationships remind us of other times, places and people, and we bring our old self’s behaviors to our interactions. If we’re not in current time when we interact with difficult people, we’re not likely to shift our behaviors or the relationship to level ground.
It’s easy to focus on the other person
How easy is it to focus on the other person and his or her behaviors? Too easy. If he or she would just…calm down, not be so antagonistic, be honest, own their part, stop judging, criticizing, belittling. One of the interesting things about relationships (and really, most of life), is that we have no control at all over how the other person chooses to behave, relate, show up, interact. No control.
Control lies with you. You’ve got the power to evolve your part of the equation.
It can be quite illuminating to consciously observe yourself, your behaviors, reactions and responses to the other person’s tone, choices, assumptions, judgments and projections. When you see how you’re behaving and reacting, you can determine whose energy you’re using, whether you’re operating through present moment awareness, and if you’re bringing your most evolved self to the interaction.
Observing and identifying your reactions and behaviors in relationship helps you intentionally clear and evolve your energy.
When you enroll in a difficult experience with a challenging person, you activate an energetic pattern and set of behaviors that opposes the other person’s energetic pattern and behaviors. When energy is in opposition, the only way out is through. That’s akin to hand-to-hand combat. It’s you or him. Someone’s got to give.
Reactive energetic patterns shift you out of present-moment awareness; you lose the ability to choose a nuanced response.
These energetic patterns usually emerge from an earlier time in your life, when it was important to behave defensively and to hold your ground. The energy of the person (or people) you defended against becomes the psychic mask that gets imprinted onto the people who you find difficult in current time.
When the energies are triggered, the pattern activates and becomes your behavioral blueprint.
Every last bit of this is within your control.
You can train yourself to:
Identify your ‘adversary’
Name your triggers & behaviors
Clear and release their energy
In present-moment awareness, you choose genuine behaviors and responses that alter and resolve relationship dynamics.
Do you feel ready to create some new dynamics in your relationships? Perhaps you’ve got a relationship or two that would benefit from this process. Maybe even a relationship that you can imagine reaching closure and letting go. Imagine moving out of oppositional energy to find new and different ways of engaging and interacting.